The buyer and I both agreed to cancel the transaction. I did it in the dispute resolution center just waitying on him to confirm it so I will get a credit.Funny I couldn't get a single message from him all week but he has messaged me 5 or 6 times today after I filed the unpaid item.
regarding the feedback. When they first changed it I just figured all you had to do was leave a possitive feedback with a negative comment.

but that doesn't work.They don't allow that.