The wolfpack is going overboard now.
01-13-2010, 04:37 AM
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Originally Posted by nvmyvettes
Here are some Quotes I like. Along the same lines but in a shorter versions. Some things to think about for sure.
An Optimist believes we live in the best of all worlds, the Pessimist fears this is true."
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power
Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed.
Neither irony or sarcasm is argument.
It is remarkable by how much a pinch of malice enhances the penetrating power of an idea or an opinion. Our ears, it seems, are wonderfully attuned to sneers and evil reports about our fellow men
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.
The Non-reciprocal Law of Expectations: Positive expectations yield negative results, but negative expectations yield negative results.
Anything that starts out good ends badly. Anything that starts out badly, ends worse
A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.
Nearly all men can withstand adversity, if you want to test a man's character, give him power.
The greatest minds are capable of the greatest vices as well as of the greatest virtues.
Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever
The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none.
Evil is like a shadow - it has no real substance of its own, it is simply a lack of light. You cannot cause a shadow to disappear by trying to fight it, stamp on it, by railing against it, or any other form of emotional or physical resistance. In order to cause a shadow to disappear, you must shine light on it
"welcome to Chris & Karla's please leave the DRAMA at the door!" By Harbone
An Optimist believes we live in the best of all worlds, the Pessimist fears this is true."
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power
Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed.
Neither irony or sarcasm is argument.
It is remarkable by how much a pinch of malice enhances the penetrating power of an idea or an opinion. Our ears, it seems, are wonderfully attuned to sneers and evil reports about our fellow men
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.
The Non-reciprocal Law of Expectations: Positive expectations yield negative results, but negative expectations yield negative results.
Anything that starts out good ends badly. Anything that starts out badly, ends worse
A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.
Nearly all men can withstand adversity, if you want to test a man's character, give him power.
The greatest minds are capable of the greatest vices as well as of the greatest virtues.
Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever
The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none.
Evil is like a shadow - it has no real substance of its own, it is simply a lack of light. You cannot cause a shadow to disappear by trying to fight it, stamp on it, by railing against it, or any other form of emotional or physical resistance. In order to cause a shadow to disappear, you must shine light on it
"welcome to Chris & Karla's please leave the DRAMA at the door!" By Harbone
01-13-2010, 08:36 AM
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Do you honestly think that being soft will do any good other than prolong the inevitable? Head on comfrontation is the one way street to the truth. How is that for a new one for ya.
SOFT = WEAK
SOFT = WEAK
01-13-2010, 09:05 AM
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Re: The wolfpack is going overboard now.
'vettes, you said you know folks that are scared to speak up! This is my second or third time to ask you to invite ANYONE that has been scammed and are afraid to say it for fear of being "bullied" into the forum, just one.
The sharks have provided a proven case (thecurti), now we need yours to make it "fair and balanced".
Ask them to send me an email, I will keep it confidential........................
I am just hard pressed to believe someone wouldn't raise he!! about being ripped off!
A quote or two I really like:
Nice guys finish last.
You steal from me, I tell everybody!
A nice cop never gets the confession.
Our tactics work well if (most of) the advice given is followed, unfortunately in many cases it is not!
The sharks have provided a proven case (thecurti), now we need yours to make it "fair and balanced".
Ask them to send me an email, I will keep it confidential........................
I am just hard pressed to believe someone wouldn't raise he!! about being ripped off!
A quote or two I really like:
Nice guys finish last.
You steal from me, I tell everybody!
A nice cop never gets the confession.
Our tactics work well if (most of) the advice given is followed, unfortunately in many cases it is not!
01-13-2010, 09:37 AM
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"Our tactics work well if (most of) the advice given is followed, unfortunately in many cases it is not!"
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01-13-2010, 10:47 AM
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you see--this old body of mine gets old and delapidated 8) and my mind forgets alot at times---BUT--I WILL NEVER FORGET A SCAMMER IF I CAN HELP IT :shock:
at times i mean to scream and yell on the forum to get people to see the stupidity of their deals and the frustration i feel for them in their dealings
SCORP does alot for us and anyone who needs it/BJUICE tries to keep us in line/ THE REST OF US ARE HERE TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE---WE AIN'T PERFECT BUT WE IS NICE PEOPLE :lol: :lol: :lol:
LIVELY
at times i mean to scream and yell on the forum to get people to see the stupidity of their deals and the frustration i feel for them in their dealings
SCORP does alot for us and anyone who needs it/BJUICE tries to keep us in line/ THE REST OF US ARE HERE TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE---WE AIN'T PERFECT BUT WE IS NICE PEOPLE :lol: :lol: :lol:
LIVELY
01-13-2010, 11:25 AM
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Typical vette owner :!: :!: :roll: :roll: :roll:
''JUST MY TWO CENT'S WORTH''
''JUST MY TWO CENT'S WORTH''
01-14-2010, 08:54 AM
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There are 1000s of article like this one. Not saying that we as humans are perfect, and will not fall prey to negative people, and play there negative games. But the less you do,the healthier,and happier you will be.
No matter where we go, we will face people who are negative, people who oppose our ideas, people who piss us off or people who simply do not like us. There are 6.4 billion people out there and conflict is a fact of life. This fact isn’t the cause of conflict but it is the trigger to our emotions and our emotions are what drive us back to our most basic survival instinct; react and attack back to defend ourselves.
In these instinctual moments, we may lose track of our higher selves and become the human animal with an urge to protect ourselves when attacked. This too is natural. However, we are the only animal blessed with intelligence and having the ability to control our responses. So how can we do that?
I regularly get asked “How do you deal with the negative comments about your articles? They are brutal. I don’t think I could handle them.” My answer is simple, “I don’t let it bother me to begin with.” It wasn’t always this simple, and took me some time before overcoming this natural urgency to protect myself and attack back.
I know it’s not easy, if it was easy, there wouldn’t be difficult or negative people to begin with.
Why Bother Controlling Our Responses?
Hurting Ourselves - One of my favorite sayings is “Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The only person we hurt is ourselves. When we react to negativity, we are disturbing our inner space and mentally creating pain within ourselves.
It’s Not About You, It’s About Them - I’ve learned that when people initiate negativity, it is a reflection of their inner state expressed externally and you just happen to be in front of that expression. It’s not personal, so why do we take it personally? In short: Because our ego likes problems and conflict. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want to take others down with them. There have been many times when a random person has left a purposefully hurtful comment , and regularly checked back to see if anyone else responded to their comment, waiting eagerly to respond with more negativity.
Battle of the Ego - When we respond impulsively, it is a natural and honest response. However, is it the smart thing to do? What can be resolved by doing so? The answer: Nothing. It does however feed our ego’s need for conflict. Have you noticed that when we fight back, it feels really satisfying in our heads? But it doesn’t feel very good in our soul? Our stomach becomes tight, and we start having violent thoughts? When we do respond irrationally, it turns the conversation from a one-sided negative expression into a battle of two egos. It becomes an unnecessary and unproductive battle for Who is Right?
Anger Feeds Anger. Negativity Feeds Negativity. - Rarely can any good come out of reacting against someone who is in a negative state. It will only trigger anger and an additional reactive response from that person. If we do respond impulsively, we’ll have invested energy in the defending of ourselves and we’ll feel more psychologically compelled to defend ourselves going forward. Have you noticed that the angrier our thoughts become, the angrier we become? It’s a negative downward spiral.
Waste of Energy - Where attention goes, energy flows. What we focus on tends to expand itself. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time, energy spent on negativity is energy that could have been spent on our personal wellbeing.
Negativity Spreads - I’ve found that once I allow negativity in one area of my life, it starts to subtly bleed into other areas as well. When we are in a negative state or holding a grudge against someone, we don’t feel very good. We carry that energy with us as we go about our day. When we don’t feel very good, we lose sight of clarity and may react unconsciously to matters in other areas of our lives, unnecessarily.
Freedom of Speech - People are as entitled to their opinions as you are. Allow them to express how they feel and let it be. Remember that it’s all relative and a matter of perspective. What we consider positive can be perceived by another as negative. When we react, it becomes me-versus-you, who is right? Some people may have a less than eloquent way of expressing themselves - it may even be offensive, but they are still entitled to do so. They have the right to express their own opinions and we have the right and will power to choose our responses. We can choose peace or we can choose conflict.
No matter where we go, we will face people who are negative, people who oppose our ideas, people who piss us off or people who simply do not like us. There are 6.4 billion people out there and conflict is a fact of life. This fact isn’t the cause of conflict but it is the trigger to our emotions and our emotions are what drive us back to our most basic survival instinct; react and attack back to defend ourselves.
In these instinctual moments, we may lose track of our higher selves and become the human animal with an urge to protect ourselves when attacked. This too is natural. However, we are the only animal blessed with intelligence and having the ability to control our responses. So how can we do that?
I regularly get asked “How do you deal with the negative comments about your articles? They are brutal. I don’t think I could handle them.” My answer is simple, “I don’t let it bother me to begin with.” It wasn’t always this simple, and took me some time before overcoming this natural urgency to protect myself and attack back.
I know it’s not easy, if it was easy, there wouldn’t be difficult or negative people to begin with.
Why Bother Controlling Our Responses?
Hurting Ourselves - One of my favorite sayings is “Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The only person we hurt is ourselves. When we react to negativity, we are disturbing our inner space and mentally creating pain within ourselves.
It’s Not About You, It’s About Them - I’ve learned that when people initiate negativity, it is a reflection of their inner state expressed externally and you just happen to be in front of that expression. It’s not personal, so why do we take it personally? In short: Because our ego likes problems and conflict. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want to take others down with them. There have been many times when a random person has left a purposefully hurtful comment , and regularly checked back to see if anyone else responded to their comment, waiting eagerly to respond with more negativity.
Battle of the Ego - When we respond impulsively, it is a natural and honest response. However, is it the smart thing to do? What can be resolved by doing so? The answer: Nothing. It does however feed our ego’s need for conflict. Have you noticed that when we fight back, it feels really satisfying in our heads? But it doesn’t feel very good in our soul? Our stomach becomes tight, and we start having violent thoughts? When we do respond irrationally, it turns the conversation from a one-sided negative expression into a battle of two egos. It becomes an unnecessary and unproductive battle for Who is Right?
Anger Feeds Anger. Negativity Feeds Negativity. - Rarely can any good come out of reacting against someone who is in a negative state. It will only trigger anger and an additional reactive response from that person. If we do respond impulsively, we’ll have invested energy in the defending of ourselves and we’ll feel more psychologically compelled to defend ourselves going forward. Have you noticed that the angrier our thoughts become, the angrier we become? It’s a negative downward spiral.
Waste of Energy - Where attention goes, energy flows. What we focus on tends to expand itself. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time, energy spent on negativity is energy that could have been spent on our personal wellbeing.
Negativity Spreads - I’ve found that once I allow negativity in one area of my life, it starts to subtly bleed into other areas as well. When we are in a negative state or holding a grudge against someone, we don’t feel very good. We carry that energy with us as we go about our day. When we don’t feel very good, we lose sight of clarity and may react unconsciously to matters in other areas of our lives, unnecessarily.
Freedom of Speech - People are as entitled to their opinions as you are. Allow them to express how they feel and let it be. Remember that it’s all relative and a matter of perspective. What we consider positive can be perceived by another as negative. When we react, it becomes me-versus-you, who is right? Some people may have a less than eloquent way of expressing themselves - it may even be offensive, but they are still entitled to do so. They have the right to express their own opinions and we have the right and will power to choose our responses. We can choose peace or we can choose conflict.
01-14-2010, 09:08 AM
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YOU HAVE GIANT NADS POSTING THIS SH!!T WHEN YOU REACT EXACTLY AS YOU GRANDSTANDINGLY POST HOW OTHER PEOPLE SHOULD ACT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU ARE THE CLASSIC DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO PRICK WHO NEEDS TO TAKE THEIR OWN ADVICE
NOW JUST SHUT UP AND GO AWAY…..
YOU ARE WORSE THAN LITTLEHOTROD…
HE IS IGNORANT, YOU ARE UBER ARROGANT AND IGNORANT
YOU ARE THE CLASSIC DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO PRICK WHO NEEDS TO TAKE THEIR OWN ADVICE
NOW JUST SHUT UP AND GO AWAY…..
YOU ARE WORSE THAN LITTLEHOTROD…
HE IS IGNORANT, YOU ARE UBER ARROGANT AND IGNORANT
01-14-2010, 09:23 AM
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Originally Posted by blownalky3
YOU HAVE GIANT NADS POSTING THIS SH!!T WHEN YOU REACT EXACTLY AS YOU GRANDSTANDINGLY POST HOW OTHER PEOPLE SHOULD ACT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU ARE THE CLASSIC DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO PRICK WHO NEEDS TO TAKE THEIR OWN ADVICE
NOW JUST SHUT UP AND GO AWAY…..
YOU ARE WORSE THAN LITTLEHOTROD…
HE IS IGNORANT, YOU ARE UBER ARROGANT AND IGNORANT
YOU ARE THE CLASSIC DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO PRICK WHO NEEDS TO TAKE THEIR OWN ADVICE
NOW JUST SHUT UP AND GO AWAY…..
YOU ARE WORSE THAN LITTLEHOTROD…
HE IS IGNORANT, YOU ARE UBER ARROGANT AND IGNORANT
This is a public forum.I dont have to go away. YOU have the option of clicking on the thread and reading or not. If you dont like it dont click.
As far as Arrogant or Ignorant, thats one opinion out of 6.4 billion people. It doesnt bother me, what YOU think. But thank you for backing up the reason this thread was started
01-14-2010, 11:25 AM
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Originally Posted by nvmyvettes
There are 1000s of article like this one. Not saying that we as humans are perfect, and will not fall prey to negative people, and play there negative games. But the less you do,the healthier,and happier you will be.
No matter where we go, we will face people who are negative, people who oppose our ideas, people who piss us off or people who simply do not like us. There are 6.4 billion people out there and conflict is a fact of life. This fact isn’t the cause of conflict but it is the trigger to our emotions and our emotions are what drive us back to our most basic survival instinct; react and attack back to defend ourselves.
In these instinctual moments, we may lose track of our higher selves and become the human animal with an urge to protect ourselves when attacked. This too is natural. However, we are the only animal blessed with intelligence and having the ability to control our responses. So how can we do that?
I regularly get asked “How do you deal with the negative comments about your articles? They are brutal. I don’t think I could handle them.” My answer is simple, “I don’t let it bother me to begin with.” It wasn’t always this simple, and took me some time before overcoming this natural urgency to protect myself and attack back.
I know it’s not easy, if it was easy, there wouldn’t be difficult or negative people to begin with.
Why Bother Controlling Our Responses?
Hurting Ourselves - One of my favorite sayings is “Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The only person we hurt is ourselves. When we react to negativity, we are disturbing our inner space and mentally creating pain within ourselves.
It’s Not About You, It’s About Them - I’ve learned that when people initiate negativity, it is a reflection of their inner state expressed externally and you just happen to be in front of that expression. It’s not personal, so why do we take it personally? In short: Because our ego likes problems and conflict. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want to take others down with them. There have been many times when a random person has left a purposefully hurtful comment , and regularly checked back to see if anyone else responded to their comment, waiting eagerly to respond with more negativity.
Battle of the Ego - When we respond impulsively, it is a natural and honest response. However, is it the smart thing to do? What can be resolved by doing so? The answer: Nothing. It does however feed our ego’s need for conflict. Have you noticed that when we fight back, it feels really satisfying in our heads? But it doesn’t feel very good in our soul? Our stomach becomes tight, and we start having violent thoughts? When we do respond irrationally, it turns the conversation from a one-sided negative expression into a battle of two egos. It becomes an unnecessary and unproductive battle for Who is Right?
Anger Feeds Anger. Negativity Feeds Negativity. - Rarely can any good come out of reacting against someone who is in a negative state. It will only trigger anger and an additional reactive response from that person. If we do respond impulsively, we’ll have invested energy in the defending of ourselves and we’ll feel more psychologically compelled to defend ourselves going forward. Have you noticed that the angrier our thoughts become, the angrier we become? It’s a negative downward spiral.
Waste of Energy - Where attention goes, energy flows. What we focus on tends to expand itself. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time, energy spent on negativity is energy that could have been spent on our personal wellbeing.
Negativity Spreads - I’ve found that once I allow negativity in one area of my life, it starts to subtly bleed into other areas as well. When we are in a negative state or holding a grudge against someone, we don’t feel very good. We carry that energy with us as we go about our day. When we don’t feel very good, we lose sight of clarity and may react unconsciously to matters in other areas of our lives, unnecessarily.
Freedom of Speech - People are as entitled to their opinions as you are. Allow them to express how they feel and let it be. Remember that it’s all relative and a matter of perspective. What we consider positive can be perceived by another as negative. When we react, it becomes me-versus-you, who is right? Some people may have a less than eloquent way of expressing themselves - it may even be offensive, but they are still entitled to do so. They have the right to express their own opinions and we have the right and will power to choose our responses. We can choose peace or we can choose conflict.
No matter where we go, we will face people who are negative, people who oppose our ideas, people who piss us off or people who simply do not like us. There are 6.4 billion people out there and conflict is a fact of life. This fact isn’t the cause of conflict but it is the trigger to our emotions and our emotions are what drive us back to our most basic survival instinct; react and attack back to defend ourselves.
In these instinctual moments, we may lose track of our higher selves and become the human animal with an urge to protect ourselves when attacked. This too is natural. However, we are the only animal blessed with intelligence and having the ability to control our responses. So how can we do that?
I regularly get asked “How do you deal with the negative comments about your articles? They are brutal. I don’t think I could handle them.” My answer is simple, “I don’t let it bother me to begin with.” It wasn’t always this simple, and took me some time before overcoming this natural urgency to protect myself and attack back.
I know it’s not easy, if it was easy, there wouldn’t be difficult or negative people to begin with.
Why Bother Controlling Our Responses?
Hurting Ourselves - One of my favorite sayings is “Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The only person we hurt is ourselves. When we react to negativity, we are disturbing our inner space and mentally creating pain within ourselves.
It’s Not About You, It’s About Them - I’ve learned that when people initiate negativity, it is a reflection of their inner state expressed externally and you just happen to be in front of that expression. It’s not personal, so why do we take it personally? In short: Because our ego likes problems and conflict. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want to take others down with them. There have been many times when a random person has left a purposefully hurtful comment , and regularly checked back to see if anyone else responded to their comment, waiting eagerly to respond with more negativity.
Battle of the Ego - When we respond impulsively, it is a natural and honest response. However, is it the smart thing to do? What can be resolved by doing so? The answer: Nothing. It does however feed our ego’s need for conflict. Have you noticed that when we fight back, it feels really satisfying in our heads? But it doesn’t feel very good in our soul? Our stomach becomes tight, and we start having violent thoughts? When we do respond irrationally, it turns the conversation from a one-sided negative expression into a battle of two egos. It becomes an unnecessary and unproductive battle for Who is Right?
Anger Feeds Anger. Negativity Feeds Negativity. - Rarely can any good come out of reacting against someone who is in a negative state. It will only trigger anger and an additional reactive response from that person. If we do respond impulsively, we’ll have invested energy in the defending of ourselves and we’ll feel more psychologically compelled to defend ourselves going forward. Have you noticed that the angrier our thoughts become, the angrier we become? It’s a negative downward spiral.
Waste of Energy - Where attention goes, energy flows. What we focus on tends to expand itself. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time, energy spent on negativity is energy that could have been spent on our personal wellbeing.
Negativity Spreads - I’ve found that once I allow negativity in one area of my life, it starts to subtly bleed into other areas as well. When we are in a negative state or holding a grudge against someone, we don’t feel very good. We carry that energy with us as we go about our day. When we don’t feel very good, we lose sight of clarity and may react unconsciously to matters in other areas of our lives, unnecessarily.
Freedom of Speech - People are as entitled to their opinions as you are. Allow them to express how they feel and let it be. Remember that it’s all relative and a matter of perspective. What we consider positive can be perceived by another as negative. When we react, it becomes me-versus-you, who is right? Some people may have a less than eloquent way of expressing themselves - it may even be offensive, but they are still entitled to do so. They have the right to express their own opinions and we have the right and will power to choose our responses. We can choose peace or we can choose conflict.
Otherwise are you claiming them as your own? (Answer carefully here).
And Darrell, indeed practice what you preach- Go back to your first thread, read it and then provide an apology to Mr. Miller- For all the negativity that you directed to him, the conflict you sought to create and that which you now feel is misguided.
In fact- use this forum to voice your apology- I am sure he will see it.
Here's the link, started by you, added to by you and full of your anger, your negativity and some good old fashioned ego- Of course there is no ego in your username right? NVMYVETTES (Envy My Vettes); is there?
http://forums.racingjunk.com/viewtop...ghlight=#97793
You amuse me.
Time to stand behind your words- Up to it?
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